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Parenting Gifted Children
"Parenting a gifted child is like living in a theme park of full thrill
rides. Sometimes you smile. Sometimes you gasp. Sometimes
you scream. Sometimes you laugh. Sometimes you gaze in wonder
and astonishment. Sometimes you're frozen in your seat.
Sometimes you're proud. And sometimes, the ride is so nerve-wracking,
you can't do anything but cry." Carol Strip & Gretchen Hirsh, in Webb,
Gore, Amend, & DeVries,
Parent's Guide to Gifted Children
Parenting the gifted child
December 01, 2020
- The 10 most
commonly asked questions about highly gifted children by Kathi Kearney
- Who are the highly gifted? How many are there? How do I know??
These and many other questions answered...
Things NOT to say to Your Gifted Child
by Nancy, Jennifer, Sarah and Joshua Heilbronner
- So often we read about what to do and say with gifted kids, but no one
ever mentions what NOT to do... until now. The Heilbronner's speak from
first-hand experience, cautioning us about the harm these 10 simple comments
can do to the young gifted child. Every parent (and teacher, too!)
should read these
10 Things NOT to say to Your Gifted Child...
Kids: An Interactive Guide for Parents and Children
by Bonnie Zucker
- Parent strategies that help children become happy and worry free, methods
that relieve a child's excessive anxieties and phobias, and tools for
fostering interaction and family-oriented solutions. Using a unique
companion approach that offers two books in one—a practical, reader-friendly
book for parents and a fun workbook for kids—this solutions-oriented guide
utilizes the cognitive-behavioral approach to therapy by integrating the
parent in the child's self-help process...
Smart about Gifted Education: A Guidebook for Educators and Parents
by Dona J. Matthews and Joanne F. Foster
- Practical strategies for the education of exceptionally high ability
(a.k.a. gifted) children. After addressing all the questions, debates
and arguments about nature vs. nurture, elitism, testing, creativity, and
more... all that's left is to serve the child's educational needs! Also
Amazon.co.uk and Amazon.ca
Talented, and Black: A Guide for Families of African American Gifted
Learners by Joy Lawson Davis
- What does it really mean to be gifted and African American in the U.S.
today? What do parents and teachers of gifted black students need to know to
help students explore their potential, thrive in school and life. Easy to
read, full of great insight for every reader, regardless of race...
Care and Feeding of Gifted Parent Groups: A Guide for Gifted Coordinators,
Teachers, and Parent Advocates
by Wenda Sheard
- 12 quick steps to form an effective advocacy group... (requires Adobe Reader)
Down America: The War on Our Nation's Brightest Young Minds (And What We Can
Do to Fight Back)
by James R. Delisle
- At a time when the U.S. education system consistently lags behind its
international peers, Dumbing Down America shows exactly why America can't
keep up by providing a critical look at the nation's schools through the
eyes of the children whose minds are languishing in countless classrooms.
Filled with specific examples of how gifted children are being shortchanged
by a nation that believes smart kids will succeed on their own, Dumbing Down
America packs a powerful message: If we want our nation to prosper, we must
pay attention to its most intelligent youth...
Denied: How to Stop Wasting Our Brightest Young Minds
by Jan and Bob Davidson, with Laura Vanderkam
- The Davidsons offer an absorbing
look at how our nation is neglecting children of exceptional intelligence. They make a compelling case for re-approaching giftedness as a potential
disability (to give more attention to gifted kids) and an even stronger
argument for parents, teachers and citizens to consider the potential loss to
American society in the costliest imaginable terms. For excerpts and
review, visit Genius Denied.
Also available from
by Linda Silverman
- Equally accessible to the education professional as to the parent, written
by a recent pioneer in the field. Dispels common myths about giftedness,
challenges the view that eminence is the true signifier of giftedness,
provides support for the twice exceptional, offers specific guidelines to
parents and teachers, describes comprehensive assessment of the gifted, and
focuses on the complex inner world of the gifted... Don't miss this volume!
the Gifted Child: A Practical Source for Parents and Teachers
by James T. Webb, Elizabeth A. Meckstroth, Stephanie S. Tolan
- Considered the classic text of this field. Also available from
Amazon.co.uk and Amazon.ca
a New Kid by Friday: How to Change Your Child's Attitude, Behavior &
Character in 5 Days
by Kevin Leman
- This actually works! You'd like to see a few things--or many--change in
your house. Have a New Kid by Friday is a game plan guaranteed to work. All
it takes is sticking to some simple strategies--strategies any parent can
This is a Gift, Can I Send It Back?: Surviving in the Land of the Gifted and
by Jen Merrill, author of
- Join Jen on her journey of discovery, acceptance, and understanding, as
she brings humor and wit to the challenges that only the gifted and twice
exceptional can create... read this yourself, or read it aloud to your
parenting partner, but whatever you do, do NOT read this in a quiet waiting
Parenting Gifted Children Week Blog Tours | Hoagies' Gifted
- Read the great blogs posts and wise words, part of SENG & NAGC's National Parenting
Gifted Children Week each July!
Parent's Guide to Gifted Children
by James T. Webb, Janet L. Gore, Edward R. Amend & Arlene R. DeVries
- Raising a gifted child is both a joy and a
challenge... guides parents through all the phases and possibilities
of the gifted child, including underachievement, sensitivities, twice
exceptionalities, friendships, siblings, schools, identification, and much
Guide to IQ Testing and Gifted Education
by David Palmer or
- Great introduction to IQ testing and gifted children. Answers your
questions, from Why test? to What do the scores mean? and What about scores
of twice exceptional children? Every parent entering the gifted
education world should read this book...
by Karen L.J. Isaacson
- A humorous look inside the home of 5 very gifted children... from the
mom's point of view. Prepare to have your funny bone tickled! And
now the sequel...
in the Fast Brain: Keeping Up With Gifted Minds. It's not only
rip-roaringly funny, but full it's of great ideas, some of which you do NOT
want your kids to find out about!
a Gifted Child: A Parenting Success Handbook
by Carol Fertig (or from
- A menu of strategies, resources, organizations, tips, and suggestions for
parents to find optimal learning opportunities for their kids, covering the
gamut of talent areas, including academics, the arts, technology,
creativity, music, and thinking skills. Focused on empowering parents by
giving them the tools needed to ensure that their gifted kids are happy and
successful both in and out of school...
Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense,
Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic
by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
- If you have an exceptionally spirited child, this book is written for you.
Also available Raising
Your Spirited Child Workbook
Model Parent Groups (SMPG)
- SENG Model Parent Groups bring together 10 to 20 interested parents of
gifted and talented children, usually for 10 weeks, to discuss topics
including motivation, discipline, stress management, and peer relationships.
Co-facilitators, though knowledgeable about parenting and educating gifted
children, do not give expert advice, instead providing a non-judgmental,
nurturing atmosphere. Parents themselves are a rich resource of information,
getting fresh ideas from other parents and from
Parent's Guide to Gifted Children, the book around which the sessions
by Wenda Sheard
- Dear teacher, I’m writing you because I want to tell you a secret about
me... the letter our kids wish they could send each year before school
Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child's True Potential
by Eileen Kennedy-Moore & Mark S. Lowenthal
- It takes more than school smarts to create a fulfilling life. In fact,
many bright children face special challenges: perfectionism, fear of effort
because they're used to instant success, some routinely butt heads with
authority figures, some struggle to get along with their peers, some are
outwardly successful but just don't feel good about themselves. Practical
and compassionate book explains the reasons behind these struggles and
offers parents do-able strategies...
Teens' Guide to Living with Intensity: How to Get More Out of Life and
by Lisa Rivero
- A guide for pre-teens and teens who are a little more... more intense,
more creative, more interesting, and yes, sometimes even called "more
difficult." A teen's perspective into growing up as a gifted teen
today. And for the parents,
A Parent's Guide to Gifted Teens: Living with Intense and Creative
of My Best Friends Are Books: Guiding Gifted Readers from Preschool to High
by Judith Wynn
Roeper Review says "...should be on the shelf of every school
library, whether that school offers gifted programming or not."
Amazon.co.uk and Amazon.ca
1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 by Thomas W.
Your Adolescents: How to Manage-and Let Go of-Your 13-18 Year Olds
- 1-2-3 Magic for Teachers: Effective Classroom Discipline Pre-K through
Grade 8 by Thomas W. Phelan and Sarah Jane Schonour
- Simple, effective child-management plan, enables parents and teachers to
discipline children by instituting a system of counting and time-outs,
delivered straightforwardly and unemotionally. Control your kids
without yelling... Especially useful with oppositional gifted kids
Dangerous Things (You Should Let Your Children Do) by Gever Tulley and
- With projects, activities, experiences, and skills ranging from "Superglue
Your Fingers Together" to "Play with Fire," along with 48 other great ideas,
the book is a manifesto for kids and parents alike to reclaim childhood.
Easy to follow instructions, fun facts, and challenging undertakings that
will engage and inspire whole households. View the Ted Talk:
Gever Tulley on 5 dangerous things for kids
"Achievement by Proxy" spectrum: recognition and clinical response to
pressured and high-achieving children and adolescents
by Ian R. Tofler
(available from Highbeam.com, by
subscription, or free trial)
- Supportive behavior refers to adult pride and satisfaction experienced in
supporting a child's development while also nurturing that child's abilities,
special talents, and performances. It is natural for parents to have ambitions
for their children and to sacrifice for them. The adult is at risk for
crossing the line [when] social advancement and financial benefits of the
child's achievements have now become important, concurrent, or even primary
goals for the adult...
on gifted education by Terrence Tao
- Education is a complex, multifaceted, and painstaking process, and being
gifted does not make this less so. I would caution against any single
“silver bullet” to educating a gifted child...
Expectations For The Gifted Child by Arlene R. DeVries
- Parents and educators working cooperatively can make a significant
difference in the emotional and intellectual growth of the gifted child.
However, for these children to fully benefit from this combined effort,
parents and schools must recognize and work together toward similar goals...
Smart about Health and Wellness: Teach Kids the Terrible Truth
by Wenda Sheard
Analytical kids will do the environmental math about driving to the gym to
exercise on machines and point out the irony. Justice-seeking kids will do
the ethical math about the unfair effects of buying quinoa from poor
Peruvians and refuse to eat the grain, or read this January 2014 Slate
article and resume eating it. Well-read kids might point out that
participation in organized sports will not address the root causes of the
gargantuan health and wellness problems facing first world people
today–problems like obesity, cancer, diabetes, and heart disease.
You want the terrible truth? Here it is:
Teach Kids the Terrible Truth
I Did Everything Right! by Sharon Begley, in Newsweek
- DNA discoveries are revealing why even the best parenting doesn't have the
effects experts promise, from breast-feeding to letting kids learn from
mistakes. Or why different kids, even in the same family, react
differently to the same situations and need different parenting styles, and
may still not learn from their own mistakes...
& Nature Network’s Research and Studies
- Children are smarter, cooperative, happier and healthier when they have
frequent and varied opportunities for free and unstructured play in the
outdoors. Here's the research to support those claims, including Faber
Taylor and Kuo's important research to the understanding of the impact of
nature on people's lives, and specifically to the well-being of children...
Collage of Parents' Stories by James Alvino, in
Gifted Child Today ($)
- Five sets of parents have agreed to share their experiences, observations
about emerging abilities, and their attempts to nurture those abilities.
..issues faced and problems solved, intuitively or sometimes with guidebooks,
as they realized their children were developing at a faster pace or with
greater complexities... to encourage other parents while reinforcing personal
strengths that readers might see in their own parenting styles and family
and Strategies for Parenting the Gifted Child by James Alvino
- NRC/GT research study. Parents of gifted children are typically the
single most important influence in their child’s development, outlook, and
fulfillment of talent. In addition to being their child’s primary caregivers,
parents of gifted children alternately function as “mentor,” “praiser,”
“disciplinarian,” “playmate,” “teacher,” and sometimes “best friend.” Parents
are truly the guardians and nurturers of their children’s talents. The home
environment is critical in nurturing giftedness and instilling the values
conducive to its full blossoming... (requires Adobe Reader)
Independent Boarding Schools as an Educational Alternative by Patsy
- Independent residential secondary schools can be viable educational
options, but they are by no means equal, especially with respect to genuinely
Counselor's Perspective on Parenting High Potential by Jean Sunde Peterson
- High ability certain does not preclude burdensome stress. Affective
concerns of the gifted should not be discounted either at school or home...
demanding parents can damage gifted children by Marilyn Elias, in USA
- Gifted children and teenagers [are] likely to be as mentally healthy as
their less able classmates. All bets are off, though, if the kids have
critical parents who demand stellar performance every day; that approach can
create nail-biting perfectionists who fear taking risks and fall short of
their potential. "Having high standards is not the problem, it's
focusing on external success..."
Mathematical Talent: Advice to Parents by Ann Lupkowski-Shoplik,
director of the Carnegie Mellon Institute for Talented Elementary and
Secondary Students (C-MITES)
- Although IQ testing is useful, it doesn’t provide enough specific
information to pinpoint students’ abilities in math. Grade-level tests are
not advanced enough and don’t accurately gauge these abilities. Students
need to take an above-level test, such as university talent searches offer,
to measure their mathematical reasoning. Based on the results of the
testing, a student’s abilities can be matched to the curriculum level...
Your Child's Habits of Success in School, Life and Work by Arthur L. Costa
- 12 strategies for helping your children be successful... (requires Adobe Reader)
You Want a Gifted or Hard-working Child? by Jim Taylor, in
- Though Taylor's conclusion that parents and children would rather be
gifted than hard-working is dubious, many of his observations are valuable:
Because they're gifted, these children experience early success and little
or no failure. Because everything comes so easily to them, many never learn
the skills-hard work, persistence, patience, perseverance, discipline-that
will enable them to become truly successful...
Your Gifted Child Need Professional Help? by Steven Curtis
- It is clear that gifted children are frequently misdiagnosed as having a
particular disorder when they actually are quite normal for who they are. In
order to investigate normality, each child must be looked at holistically.
Curtis gives five preliminary steps for parents to answer first, to
determine if additional professional intervention should be sought...
Career Planning is Essential for Gifted Adolescents by Paula Kosin and
- Most people know that everyone needs education beyond high school;
however, help with developing a thoughtful career plan is often not provided.
In today's world, parents cannot afford to ignore helping their children with
this important task...
Desarrollo en el Niño Superdotado (Asynchronous Development in the Gifted
Child) by Joy Navan
- La verdad es que cada individuo se desarrolla a su propio ritmo, pero para
los que son sobredotados, el desarrollo es asincrónico. ¿Qué quiere decir
asincrónico? Sencillamente que el desarrollo en un niño superdotado no es
parejo. Por ejemplo, la característica singular del sobredotado es su alta
inteligencia la cual le permite aprender y memorizar más rápido que otros de
Emotional Intelligence and Creativity of their Gifted Children: A Summary of
CTD's Spring 1998 conference by Rhoda Rosen
- It is vital to nurture emotional intelligence alongside cognitive
intelligence to produce a confident, self-assured adult who enjoys and is
capable of being productive; warning against stressing the cognitive at the
expense of the emotional development of the gifted child; provides ways for
parents to identify early warning signs that their gifted child may be
struggling to establish emotional security....
Your Child's Science Talent by Michael S. Matthews
Your Child's Math Talent by Michael J., Ph.D. Bosse and Jennifer V.
Your Child's Writing Talent by Nancy L. Peterson
- The Involved Parents' Guide. Great little books for parents who
need help guiding their gifted children in areas that they (the parents)
just aren't prepared for, whether you're a linguist raising a mathematician,
or a builder raising a writer, or you feel in any way unprepared for your
child's passionate interest...
Your Gifted Child by Carol Addison Takacs
- Includes topics such as role models and social skills...
Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily
Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Ross W. Greene
- Not ADHD, not ODD, but... explosive. Whether at home, school, or
both, this book gives great insight and good advice into these often
Guilt by Charlotte Riggle
- Misplaced parental guilt is a monster... Seducing you with what might have
been, it wastes your time, erodes your confidence, devours your energy, and
distracts you from what is – which is the only thing you can do anything about
- Fostering Academic
Creativity in Gifted Students (ERIC Digest #484) by Paul E. Torrance and
- Some things caring adults can do to foster and nurture creativity in
Music to Sports: Autonomy Fosters Passion Among Kids from
- Parents take heed: children and young adults are more likely to pursue
sports, music or other pastimes when given an opportunity to nurture their
own passion. "Children and teenagers who are allowed to be autonomous are
more likely to actively engage in their activity over time..."
Out!: 150 Easy Ways for Kids & Grown-Ups to Get Into Nature and Build a
Greener Future by Judy Molland
- Fun activities to inspire a love of nature along with a desire to protect
it. It doesn't matter if you live in a city apartment, a suburban
neighborhood, or out in the sticks - you will find dozens of doable
activities adults can enjoy with children...
Children: Are Their Gifts Being Identified, Encouraged, or Ignored? by Julia
- How experts define giftedness and what parents and educators can do to
support a child's special abilities. Gifted children, like other
children, need appropriate education, satisfying friendships and supportive
parenting. Problems encountered may be due in part to the common and
mistaken belief that children endowed with remarkable intelligence and/or
talents have no special educational needs...
Parent Groups: The SENG Model by James T. Webb & Arlene Devries
- A great guide for running a gifted parenting group, with week by week
topics, guidelines for facilitators, and more...
Friends Are Hard to Find: Help Your Child Find, Make, and Keep Friends
by Fred Frankel and Barry Wetmore
- A step by step guide to 'what's age appropriate' for play, and how parents
can make rules for kids to keep them moving in the direction of making and
keeping friends. Good for shy kids and kids who seem to not get those
unwritten social rules, or kids who have to deal with agemates that seem
alien to them. Read the
Guide To Gifted Children by James T. Webb, Janet L. Gore and Frances A.
- Grandparents, with their greater life experience, will often realize—even
before the parents—that a child is gifted, and that the child will need
additional emotional and intellectual sustenance...
What You (and maybe only you) Can Do to Support Your Grandchildren's Talent
Development by Nancy Robinson
- Rearing a gifted and/or talented child is both labor-intensive and
resource-intensive. Grandparents can help both directly and indirectly. They
can support their grandchildren indirectly by backing up their own children in
fulfilling parental responsibilities. More directly, they can support the
needs and passions of their grandchildren...
Truths by Juliet
- Rules to live by, for parents of highly, exceptionally and profoundly
gifted children... Worth the time to read even if you don't think you have one
Gifted Children and Their Families Prepare for College: A Handbook Designed
to Assist Economically Disadvantaged and First-Generation College Attendees
by Avis L. Wright and Paula Olszewski-Kubilius, Center for Talent
Development, Northwestern University
- Created to assist high school juniors and seniors and their parents
prepare for the college admissions and financial assistance processes, this
booklet will attempt to identify and explain assumptions, terms, and
procedures associated with applying to college or financial aid; give
helpful tips to parents and students; highlight resources which can lend
support and assistance; and will also provide a checklist designed to chart
those activities critical to the admissions process... Also available
PDF format (requires Adobe)
Gifted Children Soar: A Practical Guide for Parents and Teachers by Carol
- This user friendly guidebook educates parents and teachers about important
gifted issues, an ideal resource for the beginner to seasoned veteran in
educating gifted children
- How Can I Support My Gifted Child? (ERIC
- Raising and nurturing a gifted child can be an exciting yet daunting
challenge. This brochure defines giftedness and offers some insight into
what parents can do to act as their child's best advocate throughout the
to Handle a Hard-To-Handle Kid: A Parent's Guide to Understanding and
Changing Problem Behaviors by C. Drew Edwards
- Writing with authority and compassion, Edwards explains why some children
are especially challenging, for reasons from ADHD to profoundly gifted, then
spells out clear, specific strategies parents can use to address and correct
problem behaviors with firmness and love
to Work and Homeschool: Practical Advice, Tips, and Strategies from Parents
by Pamela Price
- Do you want to homeschool, but you need to keep working? Maybe you’re
already homeschooling, but you would like to start a business? Perhaps
you’re homeschooling, working, and volunteering, but need to create space
for yourself? Can this be done? How do other parents manage?
and Zebra Stripes: Life with Gifted Children by Wendy Skinner
- This book offers sage words for beginning parents and seasoned insights
for those more experienced, including teachers. Skinner's unvarnished
chronicle of life with 2 gifted children strikes just the right balance.
More importantly, this rewarding little book highlights the responsibility
of parents to reach out for information, stay aware of the bigger picture,
and not leave the development of gifted children to chance...
An Interview with Stephanie
Tolan by Douglas Eby
- If I'm at a conference about highly gifted kids, the parents are there,
knowing their kids are so different, and yet when I say 'Where did this kid
come from?' they will say 'We have no idea.'
Your Underachiever Lazy, Dumb, or Unappreciated? by Christine Duvivier
- If your teen is in the bottom 80% of the class, you may have been told –
or thought– that she is “an underachiever” (a polite way of saying lazy or
dumb). Underachiever compared to what? Compared to the narrowly-defined
measures of school performance or compared to the abilities that will help
her to thrive in life? In my opinion, your child is not
under-achieving. I think your child is under-appreciated...
Joy and the Challenge: Parenting Gifted Children by SENG (eBook)
- Articles and resources from SENG's National Parenting Gifted Children
Week. Topics include identifying and recognizing giftedness, the challenges
of parenting a gifted child, underachievement issues and twice
exceptionalism, gifted minorities and gifted boys and girls, misdiagnosis
and depression in gifted youth, advocacy, and parenting supports and
resources, by authors including: Ed Amend, Paul Beljan, Lori Comallie-Caplan,
Rosina Gallagher, Jean Goerss, Tiombe Kendrick, Carolyn Kottmeyer, Linda
Neumann, Richard Olenchak, Vidisha Patel, James Webb, and Nadia Webb...
Joys and Challenges in Raising a Gifted Child by Nancy Moore
- Our total experience, measured by Sara's growth in
maturity and intellectual powers, has been positive. But we can note this
only in retrospect. There have been many frustrations along the way. We hope
that this account of our experiences will help other parents to educate
their own special child...
Child in the Woods: Saving Our Children from Nature-Deficit Disorder by
Today's kids are increasingly disconnected from the natural world, says Louv (Childhood's
Future; Fatherlove; etc.), even as research shows that "thoughtful
exposure of youngsters to nature can... be a powerful form of therapy for
attention-deficit disorder and other maladies." Instead of passing summer months
hiking, swimming and telling stories around the campfire, children these days
are more likely to attend computer camps or weight-loss camps: as a result,
they've come to think of nature as more of an abstraction than a reality...
In The Asynchronous Family
by Kathi Kearney
- From asynchrony within the gifted child to asynchrony in the family to
asynchrony in the larger society, from the "early empty nest"
syndrome to schooling and other bureaucracies, a great summary of life with
the gifted child!
And the follow up, More Life with Max...
the most of chance events by Patricia A. Haensly, in
Gifted Child Today ($)
- Chance and luck, when preceded by your own trust in the good sense of your
highly capable offspring, good sense that you have worked to generate, can
become powerful ingredients in your child's successful journey into productive
- Provides gifted and talented girls and women a community of support and
inspiration, serving as a resource for parents, educators, mentors and those
that seek to support the gifted and talented women of today and the
Nurturing Appreciation of Reading by Herb Katz, in Parenting for High Potential
- a parent's main goal should be to keep the light of literacy shining
brightly. Five Things Parents Can Do to Encourage Reading...
the gifted by Tan Ee Loo, in The Malaysian Star
- Carolyn K. speaking to participants on the first day of a conference
entitled “Understanding Gifted Children: Facts and Myths” held recently at Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia, Selangor....
Giftedness, Guilt and the thorny issue of behaviours in school– Parents, the
System and the Seven Rebosos of Guilt a blog post by
Innreach's Blog – Leslinks Ireland-
Gifted, Talented & Creative Support/Edu Page
- In dealing with the thorny issue of guilt and childrens behaviours,
parents often find themselves tossed back and forth between whole ranges of
different coloured spectrums and strands of feelings...
- Reviews of the best in new children's materials from a learning
Emotionally Intense Gifted Children by Lesley Sword
- Giftedness has an emotional as well as intellectual component.
Intellectual complexity goes hand in hand with emotional depth. So gifted
children not only think differently from other children they also feel
Gifted Adolescents by Glenda L. Griffin, in
Gifted Child Today ($)
- Adolescents need to feel that parents trust them and believe that they
will make the right decisions or perform the right actions should decisions or
actions become necessary. Along with saying yes as often as possible
comes the importance of giving adolescents choices. This allows young
adolescents some control over their own lives...
Gifted Kids: Tips for Raising Happy, and Successful Kids
by James R. Delisle
- Provides a humorous, engaging and encouraging look at raising gifted
children today. Offers practical, down-to-earth advice that will cause
parents to reexamine the ways they perceive and relate to their children...
- Parenting Gifted
- Realising that your preschooler is gifted can catch you unawares,
especially if the child is your firstborn... includes a great chart of early
highly gifted children: The challenges, the joys, the unexpected surprises
by Kathi Kearney
- For families of highly gifted children, the practical consequence of this
situation is that the parents and children themselves often must use their own
resources to seek out information about extreme giftedness and its impact on
schooling and family life...
Successful Children a video/DVD by Jim Webb
- Over two dozen key strategies for parents to enhance family
relationships... Several other video/DVD titles are available:
Gifted Children Need Special Help? and
My Child Gifted? also by Jim Webb
With Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility
by Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline
Also available on
Parenting Teens With Love & Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible
Also available on cassette
With Love & Logic: Practical Solutions to Today's Grandparenting
and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting from Birth to Six
Years Also available on
the Challenge: Using Love and Logic to Help Children Develop Attention and
- A common sense approach to raising children, with lots of humor and
positive suggestions for dealing with negative situations. Great parenting
Parents and Professionals as Partners: A Psychologist's View by Nancy M.
- As a psychologist who works with the families of gifted children I'm
witness to a great many battles that could and should have been avoided.
In my view, a very high priority needs to be given to establishing a working
partnership among parents and all other adults...
are the best source of information about their children's abilities by John Worthington
- Parents are a highly accurate and reliable
source of information about their children's intelligence and abilities with
most able to predict their child's IQ to within a few points, according to a
University of Queensland PhD study... Also see A
Longitudinal Study of Early Literacy Development and the Changing
Perceptions of Parents and Teachers
as Instructional Partners in the Education of Gifted Children by Mary
- The most important elements in a professional/parental partnerships is one
in which parents and teachers are truly instructional partners; they have a
joint focus on the abilities and interests of an individual child, a
willingness to work together, a communication on assignments, and a commitment
to responsibilities. Together, professionals and parents can extend the
professional's capacity and provide the type of individualized education
gifted children need when placed in a regular classroom...
conceptions of giftedness by Razel Solow, in
Gifted Child Today
- Parents' conceptions about giftedness may affect their interpretations of
their gifted children's characteristics and behaviors and, in turn, may
influence their reaction to them. The bidirectional nature of parent-child
relationships has become apparent in the last decade of child-development
research. "Our children as much rear us as we do them...
(requires Adobe Reader)
Parent's Guide to Helping Children: Using Bibliotherapy at Home by Mary
- Bibliotherapy is the use of literature that addresses problems or issues
current in the lives of children...
Parent's Guide to Raising a Gifted Child: Recognizing and Developing Your
Child's Potential from Preschool to Adolescence by James Alvino
- A practical,
informative, and authoritative primer for raising and educating our gifted
children from preschool to adolescence. Beginning with sensible strategies to
determine whether -- and in which area -- your child is gifted, this book takes
parents through selecting an appropriate day-care center, a school, and a home
Research, and the School Curriculum by Mallory Bagwell
- A child's initial entry into school causes a parent to ask him or herself,
"What is it I wish my child to become?"
Rejection... Almost Bullying by Charlotte Riggle
- Some things I've told my kids when they were having peer problems...
First, I have explained the developmental nature of peer nastiness...
Second, I have explained, explicitly, that everyone else feels the same way...
Parent Guide: Choose Your Child's School With Confidence, the Elementary
Years, K-6 by Bryan C. Hassel and Emily Ayscue Hassel
- Leaves no stones unturned in addressing the critical intersection of
child, family and school, and they have presented the material in a
friendly, indexed, bite-sized format that makes Picky Parent Guide an
Or download the Adobe PDF
Choose a School for Your Gifted Child: A Picky Parent Guide Quick Kit
(requires Adobe Reader)
Parents" ... Bad Rap or Necessary Role? by Arlene R. DeVries
- Are pushy parents getting a bad rap? Perhaps. But informed parents who
advocate for their gifted children are a necessity if gifted education
programs are to survive!
to the Choir: TV Advisory Ratings and Gifted Children by Robert Abelman
- Parents most likely to embrace the rating advisory system... are high
academic achievers, most of whom were school-classified as intellectually
gifted and participating in special education opportunities...
gifted guilt by Jim Delisle
- Parents of profoundly gifted
children often feel isolated in seeking solutions to these and other life
dilemmas. Each dilemma seems dire and life-changing (how else could you
describe the decision to allow a 10-year-old to begin taking college courses?)
and parents of profoundly gifted children often feel as if the wrong decision
will result in the most awful of consequences...
Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads: Dealing with the Parents, Teachers, Coaches, and
Counselors Who Can Make--or Break--Your Child's Future by Rosalind
Wiseman & Elizabeth Rapoport
- By the author who brought us
Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip,
Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence, helps parents navigate
"the unspoken rules of Perfect Parent World" so they can find their own
"happy medium between overprotective parenting and frightened passivity."
Her bottom line: parents have to model good behavior if they want to end up
with good kids.
Raising Topsy-Turvy Kids: Successfully Parenting Your Visual-Spatial Child
by Alexandra Shires Golon
- How do you know if you have one? Allie paints a perfect picture!
And how do you parent and educate them? Learn here.
Skills for Visual-Spatial Learners and
Harmony at Home (requires Adobe)
Raising Children You Can Depend On by Lisa Stamps in
Duke Gifted Letter
- It can be difficult to help the siblings of special needs children
understand that parents are not favoring the special needs child, that he or
she truly has severe learning issues...
School Life of a Gifted Child by Dawn Meier
- I wrote this to let others know where I went wrong. I should have fought
from the very beginning with a different attitude. I should have trusted my
instincts. Please, parents, always trust your instincts...
Secret to Raising Smart Kids by Carol S. Dweck, in Scientific American
- Young people who believe that their intelligence alone will enable them to
succeed in school are often discouraged when the going gets tough.
Parents and teachers can engender a growth mind-set in children by praising
them for their effort or persistence (rather than for their intelligence)...
- Gifted siblings often have unique relationships; they also have all the
common sibling relationships. Find research and reference on all these
Your Harvard Questions, Looking For Parenting (and Other) Lessons in New
York Times blog The Choice
- The drive to “get them into college” is, particularly in certain parts of
the country, and among certain circles of parents, really the drive to “get
them into the ‘best’ college.” When we say “the best college” what most
parents mean (or say they mean, or should mean) is the one that is the “best
A Smarter Brain by
- A recent study of adolescents with above-average math abilities found the
right and left halves of their brains are apparently better able to interact
and share information than the brains of average students...
or Lose by Ashley Merryman in New York Magazine
- A couple of years ago, Sadeh sent 77 fourth-graders and sixth-graders home
with randomly drawn instructions to either go to bed earlier or stay up
later for three nights. A researcher went to the school in the morning
to test the children’s neurobiological functioning. “A loss of one
hour of sleep is equivalent to [the loss of] two years of cognitive
maturation and development...”
Social-Emotional Health of Children: An Interview with Psychologist Maureen
- What are the major beliefs out there about the social-emotional or
psychological health of gifted children?
Children Under Some Conditions: TV and the High Potential Kid by Robert
Abelman, Cleveland State University
- The catastrophic impact of television on youth, as depicted in the popular
press, is equally fictitious. After all, being intellectually gifted places
children in both advantageous and detrimental positions in terms of how TV
is used, for what reasons, and to what effect. For some children, under some
conditions, some television is harmful. For other children under the same
conditions, or for the same children under other conditions, it may be
beneficial. There is little doubt, however, that for nearly all children
television has created a fundamental change in daily life... (requires Adobe Reader)
and opportunity: re-exploring giftedness and parents' expanding directive role
by Patricia Haensly, in
Gifted Child Today ($)
- Instead of repeatedly reconfiguring what we've been doing over the past
decades, looking for the waters of gifted life in old paradigms, we might seek
to describe, foster, and even predict new ideas about where, when, and how
giftedness can emerge more effectively in our children. Actually, some of the
leaders in our field have begun to do just that...
Up for Your Gifted Child: How to Make the Most of Kids' Strengths at School
and at Home by Joan Franklin Smutny
- If you think your gifted child isn't getting the education he or she
needs, this book is for you. It helps you recognize your child's gifts,
understand his or her problems at school, find out your district's policy on
gifted education, explore various options, communicate effectively with the
school and district, and provide enrichment at home
Child or Dreamer? by Dana Scott Spears and Ron L. Braund
- A sensitive dreamer if: forgets
to follow instructions, no matter how clear and simple, craves praise
and positive attention, yet refuses to conform to what's expected, tells
more than his share of fibs and tall tales. If this is your child, you know the frustration of turning to parenting experts for
advice only to find the systems don't work, the rules don't stick and strong
boundary setting makes the situation worse. The creative-sensitive dreamer
is not the strong-willed child...
- Suggestions To Turn On
Bright Children At Home
- Common household items and simple games given a new twist often become the
source for original ideas and a creative springboard for you and your child
- SuperKids Educational Software Review
- Software reviews, by kids, parents, and educators, plus bestseller list
and price survey
Survival Guide for Parents of Gifted Kids: How to Understand, Live With, and
Stick Up for Your Gifted Child
by Sally Yahnke Walker Also available from Amazon.co.uk
- The ultimate guides to surviving and thriving in a world that doesn't
always value, support, or understand high ability...
Study Skills and Learning Strategies to Therapists, Teachers, and Tutors: How
to Give Help and Hope to Disorganized Students by Diane Newton
- If students are to have organization, study skills and learning strategies
at the point when they need them, the skills have to be taught ahead of time.
By middle school, or certainly no later than high school, students need
specific instruction, demonstration, ample practice, and in many cases careful
Your Child to Think And Make Parenting Fun Again by Richard A. Shade &
- How you react to your child¹s problems is important. How you respond to
and interact in general with your child is your parenting style. There is
nothing *good*or *bad,* *right* or *wrong* with a parenting style. It's just
that -- a style. Ask yourself: How is this approach
working for me?
Trend: Responsible Social Networking for Teens on
- Internet users are moving from mere consumers of information to producers
as well. Youth are among the first to adopt new technologies, and one of the
most popular online activities is social networking. Teaching good online
practices is part of parenting the online child. They may know more about
technology, but you know more about life. Here are some pieces of advice...
With ADD: A Parents' Guide
by Chris A. Zeigler Dendy
- Add to the struggle for control and confusion with emerging identity of
the typical teen, the challenges difficulty focusing attention, resisting
impulses, or remaining still, and you will understand the necessity of a
manual for how to live and work with teens with ADD
Tips for Raising Girls by Sylvia Rimm
- help stimulate the development of girls' self-esteem and confidence...
Tips for Talking to Teachers by Jim Delisle and Judy Galbraith
- Excerpted from
When Gifted Kids Don't Have All the Answers: How to Meet Their Social and
Top 10 Things Children Really Want Their Parents To Do With Them by
- What do you think matters most to your children? After speaking
endlessly about this topic with my students, it became clear to me that
children today are involved in too many activities and are in turn becoming
less in touch with themselves and their families. In addition, my students
told me they really wished for more time to “just play”...
Say My Kid's Gifted: Now What? by F. Richard Olenchak
- A quick, easy-to-use guide for parents of gifted kids. From
identification process, to choosing a teacher, to gifted programs and
of Wisdom collected by Carolyn K.
- Those little things that I wish I knew years ago!
for selecting the right counselor or therapist for your gifted child by
James T. Webb
- Preventive guidance is the best policy... But if a problem, such as
anxiety, sadness, depression, or poor interpersonal relations continues for
longer than a few weeks, it would be worthwhile to consider professional
consultation. So how do you find a psychologist or counselor?
for parents of intense children by Sharon Lind
- Living with emotionally intense children and partners can be turbulent,
exciting, challenging, and joyful. Emotionally intense individuals are often
accused of "overreacting." Their compassion and concern for others, their
focus on relationships, as well as the intensity of their feelings may
interfere with every day tasks. It is often quite difficult and demanding to
work and live with intense individuals...
and Raising Boys a PBS Parents Guide
- Discover how to help your boy feel confident, succeed in school, and grow
up resilient and responsible. Read it all, especially
Boys in School:
Is school a bad fit for boys? Learn how to help boys adjust to school and
schools adjust to boys...
My Daughter’s 5th Grade Teacher Taught Me About Being a Gifted Adult by
Elisa of gifteduniverse.com
- A teacher who changes who we are and how we look at life. This year, my
daughter was fortunate enough to have such a teacher. This man had a
profound impact on my daughter. And, by association, he also affected how I
understand myself giftedness as a gifted adult...
Prodigies Fail: Talent isn't enough. Commitment, perseverance and innovation
help prodigies make a lasting mark by Psychology Today staff
- Betting on a prodigy is anything but a sure thing. The majority of
childhood prodigies never fulfill their early promise. No one teaches
the prodigies about task commitment, about perseverance in the face of
social pressures, about how to handle criticism. Also read
Gifted Kids, Harsh Truths: Being gifted isn't always a gift. And pushy
parents make it worse
help families with gifted kids overcome isolation by Sarah Price,
Education Reporter, The Sydney Morning
- Research has found parents of gifted children are becoming socially
isolated fearing they sound boastful or arrogant if they speak about their
child's ability. Workshops for parents of gifted children in regional
and remote areas alleviate this isolation...
gifted and a right handful in the BBC News
- Curse or blessing? When it comes to super-intelligent children, the jury
is still out on whether they are a good or bad thing. Looking after an
ordinary child is hard work enough, but having to cope with the constant
questioning of a little genius can be a full-time job - which explains why
some parents of gifted children take education into their own hands...
Kid is Smart by Marissa K. Lingen
- Helpful hints from someone who was a gifted kid not too long ago: Accept
it, Don't say it...