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Parenting Gifted Girls

"Parenting gifted children puts you in a position that is different from most of your friends, neighbors and even relatives. Many friends and kin cannot emphatically relate to the rigors of raising an exceptionally bright child. Other adults may have difficulty understanding some of your attitudes and actions." Webb, Meckstroth and Tolan, Guiding the Gifted Child: A Practical Source for Parents and Teachers

See also ... Parenting Gifted Children and Sibling Relationships

Girl in the Mirror: Mothers and Daughters in the Years of Adolescence by Nancy L. Snyderman and Peg Streep

Optimism, encouragement, and empathy fill every page of this thoughtfully compiled text. Whether they're unraveling a deceptively complex topic such as girls' friendships (from childhood "best friends" to teenage sexual partners), or reporting hard data on tough issues (chronic disorders, drug abuse, violence), Snyderman and Streep never buy in to "inevitable" scenarios. Rather, they offer practical methods to help mothers nurture a pattern of appropriate openness, trust, and respect with their maturing daughters...
 

Mean Girls (PG-13)

Based on Queen Bees and Wannabes, it's funny, but right on target and a great starting point for conversations with our daughters...
 

Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls by Rachel Simmons

begins with the premise that girls are socialized to be sweet with a double bind: they must value friendships; but they must not express the anger that might destroy them. Lacking cultural permission to acknowledge conflict, girls develop what Simmons calls "a hidden culture of silent and indirect aggression." ...offers innovative ideas for changing the dynamics of the classroom, sample dialogues for talking to daughters, and exercises for girls and their friends to explore and resolve messy feelings...
 

Odd Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity, and Jealousy by Rachel Simmons

sequel to the controversial bestseller Odd Girl Out compiles pseudonymous accounts of bullying, backstabbing and other nastiness that girls say they have suffered or perpetrated on other girls, intercut with brief commentary from political scientist Simmons.  ...not much different from what teen advice manuals have always offered, but some readers may find Simmons's presumption-of-wickedness approach more disarming than the conventional, presumption-of-goodness literature
 

Protecting the Gift : Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane) by Gavin De Becker

Be warned: In many ways this is a terrifying book. It deals with a subject--violence against children--that most of us never want to consider. But, as Gavin de Becker stresses, such situations, though rare, can occur, so all parents must deal with the facts in order to protect their children properly...
 

Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence by Rosalind Wiseman

Acting as a liaison between "Girl World" and "Planet Parent," Wiseman helps parents understand their daughters' friendships, the power of cliques and the roles of girls within them (including Queen Bee, Sidekick, Torn Bystander, Messenger and Target). She outlines parenting styles (from "The Lock-Her-in-a-Closet Parent" to "The Loving-Hard-Ass Parent") and offers tips on talking to teens ("Don't use the slang your daughter uses"). The second half concentrates on boys, sex and drugs as well as what to do if your daughter needs professional help...
 

Queen Bee Moms & Kingpin Dads: Dealing with the Parents, Teachers, Coaches, and Counselors Who Can Make--or Break--Your Child's Future by Rosalind Wiseman & Elizabeth Rapoport 

By the author who brought us Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence, helps parents navigate "the unspoken rules of Perfect Parent World" so they can find their own "happy medium between overprotective parenting and frightened passivity." Her bottom line: parents have to model good behavior if they want to end up with good kids.

 

Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls by Mary Pipher

If you have a gifted girl approaching or in the teen years, you should read this book, and perhaps have her read it, and discuss it together