|
Click on
Shop Hoagies' Page before you visit your favorite on-line stores
including Amazon
and many more of your favorite stores. Thanks for
making Hoagies' Gifted community possible!
Donations
Your donations help keep Hoagies' Gifted Education Page on-line.
Support Hoagies' Page!
| |
Hoagies' Blog Hop: Asking for Help
 How and When to Ask For Help. So many
things happen with our gifted kids, students, older family members, and even
ourselves, that make us think, "Is this normal?" Good question!
When should we ask for help, and when should we just "let it
ride..." And how and where and to whom should we, could
we, ask for help?
As a teacher, when should we ask for help with the education of
the gifted kids in our class? As a parent, how can we ask
for help when our previously sparkle-in-their-eyes child slowly
comes home from school sullen-and-withdrawn, commenting about
"never learning again"? Our gifted teens... that's another
time when both parents and teachers find themselves scratching
their heads wondering "Is this normal?" or "Should I be
worried?" There are so many times and reasons to ask for help
with the gifted...
Don't miss our previous Blog Hops,
including
Anxiety and
Gifted
Self-Care. Also visit
Hoagies' Gifted Online Communities...
If you'd like to read all our past Blog Hops or join our next Blog Hop, visit
Blog Hops for our past and future topics.
Special thanks to Pamela S. Ryan for our striking Blog Hop graphics!
-
 The
Oxygen Mask: Gifted and 2e Parenting by
The Fissure
- Despite decades of research and advocacy, misconceptions about gifted
students persist. Among the myths listed by the National Association for
Gifted Children (NAGC), this one may be the most damaging: “gifted students
don’t need help; they’ll do fine on their own.”
The same myth could be used to describe parents of gifted children...
-
 This
too shall pass...but in the meantime I'm asking for Help by Catie,
My Little Poppies
- Parenting a gifted child can be a lonely venture simply because no one
feels comfortable talking about it. Once you connect with other parents of
gifted children you realize that you're not alone. Yes, your parenting
experience may be different than the norm, but you aren't alone. Your normal
is someone else's normal, too...
-
Help! Where
Do I Get It? by
Adventures of Hahn
Academy
- Help, what’s that? Here are some synonyms for help: assistance,
relief, advice, aid, benefit, comfort, support, service, lift, cooperation,
guidance, avail, maintenance, remedy, sustenance, utility, or helping hand.
As you can see, the word doesn’t have negative connotations and is actually
something we should want. Now let's look at the antonyms for help:
injury, obstruction, counteraction, harm, blockage, encumbrance, handicap,
hindrance or hurt. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want any of these.
And I know from experience that if we don’t get help or
advocate for our gifted children harm does in fact occur. By not seeking
help, gifted are harmed via increased rates of being bullied, higher levels
of underachievement, boredom, misbehavior, dropping out, and failure
(academically and/or socially)...
-
 Gifted
Children and Adults: When is Therapy Helpful? by
Gail Post in
Gifted Challenges
- Although education, mental health and health care professionals have
been known to misdiagnose and mislabel gifted thinking and behaviors as a
sign of disturbance, it is just as important to not overlook problems when
they arise. And gifted people often possess traits that make life more
complicated!
-
 How
and When to Ask For Help
by Jo on Sprite's Site
- Who can help gifted and 2E students and how and when should we seek help?
From school administrators, teachers and coaches, mentors and leaders? From
counsellors or therapists? From state &/or federal government? From
humankind? From the Universe? From family and friends and other members of
the gifted community? Who helps or has helped you and how? How did u seek
them or reach them or find them? What difference did it make?
-
Learning to Ask
for Help (begins with how it's been offered in the past) by
Everyday
Learning
- For me, not wanting to ask for help was a learned behavior but it was also
rooted in pride. I believe myself to be a fairly intelligent person, but
when I was younger I had all kinds of raging insecurities about how other
people perceived me. I also had a fear of being seen as needy or not capable
of the independence I coveted from a very early age.
As a parent, I was also aware of how my children behaved when it was clear
that they were in need of help, but were not asking. Saying, “Ask me, if you
need anything” never really got a meaningful response.
So, I began to rethink how I offered help to others, especially my kids. By
framing my offers of help in gentle language that revealed my own struggles
and need for assistance in the past, I was able to show there’s no shame in
accepting help...
-
 When
You Want to Send the Gift(edness) Back by Paula Prober,
Your Rainforest Mind
- And you're not complaining when you explain that there are times when
you want to send the gift back. You're seriously overwhelmed, exhausted and
enthralled by what you see, what you feel, what you hear, what you intuit,
what you smell, what you know, what you don't know, what you worry about,
and what you don't worry about. And if you're a parent of a child whose
brain is wired for extra-intelligence, then, be sure to keep your receipt.
Because you may want to send that gift back, too...
-
When Your Gifted Child is
Struggling in School: Things to Consider by
Gift-Ed Connections
- There is only one response I have to the question "When should I ask for
help?" Anytime you have concerns about your child's learning and wellbeing.
"But I don't want to be THAT parent!" You know your child best so if
there has been a change in their behaviour, their attitude toward learning
or their general happiness that is worrisome and that you are not able to
explain, it is important to ask questions...
-
Choosing Help by Linda Wallin,
Living with Geniuses
- When I couldn't bear the thought of staying in the depressing situation
any longer, I moved from a farm to a city and sought counseling for myself
and my kids. Someone had recommended it to me, but I waited until there was
a hole in a wall and another in a door. Anger. Counseling helped...
-
 Yes,
you need help! by
Planet Smarty Pants
- Where do you turn for help when confronted with something that you cannot
control or when you are not sure what you should do next? I recently wrote a
post with 10 online resources for parents of gifted kids – great websites
and communities where you can obtain more information and meet parents just
like you. But today I want to talk about books – books for parents of gifted
kids and gifted kids themselves...
-
Dear Tired Mama of Gifted Kids... by Colleen on
Raising Lifelong Learners
- Take heart, mama, it is worth it. The late night theological discussions,
the endless curiosity, the boundless energy, the constant noise… it’s all
worth it.
But, because the traditional parenting tips don’t typically work with gifted
and intense children, you often feel alone and like you’re failing.
Miserably.
Here’s the thing, mama of gifted and intense kiddos… you’re not failing. At
all. And the supermom myth… well it’s just a myth. You can’t do it all, and
you certainly can’t do it alone...
-
Seeking Help for the Uniquely Normal... or Normally Unique by
Diane Hale, in Schooling the Gifted
- What is it about human nature that makes us want to be "normal" and
totally unique at the same time? The good news about parenting or teaching
gifted kids is that you get to live in a perpetual state of unique
normality. (Oxymoron intended). After teaching gifted children for twelve
years I came to love the new normal that was my classroom. However, I ran
into trouble when outliers cropped up and I didn't know where to go for help...
-
Open to Receive by
Aurora Remember
- It's that discomfort that makes asking for help so much more difficult
than giving it. Asking for help requires vulnerability. We have to put
ourselves out there and risk rejection.
Offering help is easy. It makes us feel good to help others feel good. It
helps us to connect without feeling vulnerable because we are not putting
our own stuff out on the line. It also may make us feel powerful, but is it
at the expense of the power of the other?
As Brene Brown points out, vulnerability is uncomfortable, but it is a
crucial element...
| If you'd like to read all our past Blog Hops or join our next Blog Hop, visit
Blog Hops for our past and future topics.
Special thanks to Pamela S. Ryan for our striking Blog Hop graphics!
|
Updated
December 01, 2020
|
Thanks!
