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Hoagies' Blog Hop November 2014: Gifted Self-Care
we head into this year's holiday season, let's talk about Gifted
Self-Care. Whether it's caring for our selves, or teaching
self-care to our kids, we all need to spend a little time taking
care of me, myself and I. Care for yourself might simply be a cup of
coffee or a chocolate bar all by yourself, a massage, a good book,
or date night with your spouse (and without the kids). For our kids,
we might teach them deep breathing, meditation or even escaping a
stressful situation, when possible. And we always want them to
know that we, like them, need to take care of ourselves!
Don't miss our previous Blog Hops, May:
The "G" Word,
and October: Gifted
If you'd like to join our next Blog Hop, visit
Gifted Blog Hops.
Special thanks to Pamela S. Ryan for our Blog Hop graphics!
to click the Next Blog button at the bottom of
each blog to move on to the next blog without returning here. It's a great way to Hop around
our Blog Hop! (Note: 5 blogs from Discovering
Your Awesome and Aurora Remember's and Amy Harrington's blogs are not "in the
loop" this month; visit separately.)
Sometimes Self-Care is About Trust by Jayde Piltzer,
Discover Your Awesome
- I’m used to being one of the most competent people in any room. I have a
history of expecting other competent people to be too busy, and too
critical. I expect them to value independence strongly. These expectations
are a story–it is not even a true story, but it is buried deep. I used to
keep myself safe by isolating myself as much as possible. The more
overwhelmed and scared I felt, the further I hid, and the more I pretended I
could do anything, and that nothing bothered me....
Undercover Agent Forever: Impostor Syndrome by Ray Lardie,
Discover Your Awesome
- But there is good news. Most everyone is undercover, which means that
you’re not alone. That can be really hard for your brain to accept–no one
else looks like they’re panicking on the inside. But neither do you.
Remember, you’re all undercover, and you’re all really good at it. What
people don’t realize is that you’re all agents from the same department...
Giving Yourself Permission: Making Self-Care a Priority by Shannon R.,
Discover Your Awesome
- I often get caught up in the feeling that I’m too busy and there’s no
time for self-care. That’s a huge sign for me: it means that I’m
overextended and I need to spend more time on self-care, not less. It also
means that I’ve let self-care slide to a lower spot on the list of
priorities and it’s time for me to give myself permission to rank it higher
up the list again. Put self-care higher on your list. Reduce the number of
things you have to do. Delegate something...
Sudden-Onset Social Paranoia: What to Do When Your Brain Abruptly Tries to
Eat You by Ray Lardie, Discover Your Awesome
- It’s nonsense, but already your mind is racing though a record of
everything you’ve said and done since sitting down together. Are you talking
too much? Is the topic boring? Is the seating arrangement wrong? Your futile
attempts to stop your mind short do nothing to prevent the bloom of anxiety
in your gut. It doubles as you recall how perceptive your friends
are–they’ll notice your fidgeting, the strained smiles that come with the
knowledge that people are talking about you...
Self-Care by Catie, My
- Self-care needs vary by individual. I have a lot of roles (mom, wife,
daughter, sister, friend...) and in order for me to be my best self in each
of these roles, I need to take care of myself. Obviously, I cannot always
squeeze in all of the following but on the days I do? Look out, world!
Six Ways to Refresh Yourself by
Braver than you believe
- There are lots of lists, how-to’s, and recommendations for taking care
of yourself, and I don’t want to add to all that. I just want to say one
thing: Try it...
When Gifted Overexcitiblities and an Introverted Personality Collide
by Mrs. Warde,
- I thought I was smart enough to learn from the mistakes of others; but I
still fell into the trap, blinded by my enthusiasm and wanting the best for
my kids. But the best for them does not include a mother who is too tired by
doing the extra things to do the most important things. And I suspect I may
not be the only introvert out there who is sacrificing my best well being
for the sake of activities for my children...
Self-Care by Lisa Rivero
- Meditation for Over-Thinkers. I have found that many highly intellectual
people are wary of meditation. They think it is not conducive to creativity,
too unscientific, too new age, too religious, or too, well, nonintellectual.
However, especially for people who are thinkers first and foremost,
meditation can be a valuable part of physical and mental health...
Care, Where Art Thou? by
Nicole Diatto, in Patchwork Poppies
- No one will do it for you but you… Self care, where art thou?…
I use to wait on my husband to notice I needed a break.. Oh what a mistake
and immature thinking. I can’t wait for self care to come to me. I need to
be the one to push aside time for myself. I’ve come to the conclusion that
if others can do it, so can I. Its about shifting priorities and getting my
life more in order...
Care – Setting Physical and Mental Health Goals by
- We really need to have self care so that we would not be a burden to
others. I am no superwoman. It is time to take care of myself. My children
need me and my students need me. I need to be in tip top condition before I
can really be there for others. I have signed up for a 100-day challenge, to
finish 2014 strong, instead of waiting till 2015 to set new resolutions. I
have decided on two types of health goals....
Where Caring Becomes Self-care by
- How do we care for ourselves as we work to discover our own “truth” which
can often come in conflict with other “truths”? I hesitate in recommending a
“12 step program” as your body and mind likely have different requirements
than mine and you may choose to focus more on alleviating the symptoms as
opposed to my ongoing quest to find the source of my dis-ease...
If I'm So Smart, Why Am I So Stressed Out? by Paula Prober,
Your Rainforest Mind
- You need to do the things that nourish you and relax you and heal you so
that you can be the person you're meant to be. Don't waste any more time.
You can't be your authentic powerful purposeful self without nourishing your
heart, your mind, your body, your soul and your spirit. Don't wait any
Stress management toolbox: Nine tips for parents of gifted children by
Gail Post in
- Just like every other parent, gifted children's parents also need tools
for managing stress. Despite beliefs that raising a gifted child is a
breeze, most parents of gifted kids would readily claim that it's no picnic.
Weathering challenges like overexcitabilities, isolation from peers,
asynchronous development, and boredom with school are heartbreaking for
parents to witness. Advocacy efforts with schools can seem daunting, and
decisions about extra-curriculars, possibly transferring schools, or even
homeschooling can be overwhelming. And it's often lonely, since many other
parents either don't understand or frankly dismiss these concerns...
Kids Self-Care by
Planet Smarty Pants
- Emotional self-care is also something that we, as parents, continue to
teach throughout our children’s lives, even sometimes without realizing that
we are doing it. Children are watching us all the time learning how we deal
with stress, worry, and overload. I believe that the best way to teach
emotional self-care is through personal example, through explaining to our
kids why we say “no” to things and why we say “yes”...
- This is another blog topic that's kind of laughable from me. In general,
I'm just spectacularly bad at self-care. I have a million things to do, and
they're going to get done if it kills me. And sometimes I wonder if maybe
that's not really the best attitude to have. Determination is all well and
good, but sometimes maybe it's worth it to take some time off of tasks to
Be sure to adjust your own oxygen mask before assisting others... by
Carolyn K., in
Hoagies' Nibbles and Bits
- Whatever we do to take care of ourselves, it's important that we actually
DO it. It's important to take care of ourselves before we try to take care
of our kids and spouse (in no particular order). It's even more important
for our kids to see us taking care of ourselves--our minds, bodies, eyes,
relationships--they need to learn to do the same thing for themselves.
Whatever you do for to relax and rejuvenate yourself, keep a few things in
Turning to Pen and Paper by Zadra Rose Ibañez, guest blogger
for Institute for
- One of the questions we routinely ask applicants during an interview for a
position with IEA is: “How do you deal with stress?” If one were to ask me
that, I would have several answers—take deep breaths, go for a walk, or
listen to music, for example—but the answer that would describe the tactic
that is first and most effective for me would be, “Journal about the
My good friend’s father is a very wise, very prominent businessman. One
piece of advice I will always remember from him is...
Press Pause for Better Content Streaming by
Diane Hale, in Schooling the Gifted
- This idea of pressing pause and walking away for a little
self-regulating of my own frustration made me think about how we as adults
need to do that for the gifted children in our lives. We are all trying to
stream a lot of mental content all day. Whether we are school
administrators, teachers, or parents, taking time to keep ourselves in
mental check does so much for our children. We also need to give gifted
children the freedom and the skills to self-regulate for themselves. I got
to thinking about my streaming video and how the steps I took to make a
better movie viewing experience for myself can be followed in our lives and
in our children’s lives...
Where's Your Oxygen Mask? by
- I know I know, you've heard that you should always put on your own oxygen
mask first before helping to put it on others. This sounds good in theory,
but you seem to have misplaced your mask. The best advice I was ever given
when I started as a school psychologist was from my intern supervisor who
was retiring after 30 years with much recognition for excellence. He told me
that My first responsibility is to take care of myself and my connections
with people are much more important than my connections with paper or
things. This advice has served me well over the years, yet...
Needs a Time-Out by
- When deep breaths just aren’t cutting it, then mommy needs a time-out
Time-outs really are for parents despite what you’ve heard. When children
are being whiney or demanding that is precisely when they need us the most
for reassuring comfort. What happens when you are all tapped out? You cannot
effectively parent peacefully if you are at your wit’s end so you need to
know how and when to remove yourself from the situation before you become
old yeller. Nobody likes being around mean mommy when she has lost her
April 02, 2016