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Parenting Gifted Girls
"Parenting gifted children puts you in a position that is different
from most of your friends, neighbors and even relatives. Many friends and kin
cannot emphatically relate to the rigors of raising an exceptionally bright
child. Other adults may have difficulty understanding some of your attitudes
and actions." Webb, Meckstroth and Tolan, Guiding
the Gifted Child: A Practical Source for Parents and Teachers
July 12, 2012
in the Mirror: Mothers and Daughters in the Years of Adolescence by Nancy
L. Snyderman and Peg Streep
- Optimism, encouragement, and empathy fill every page of this thoughtfully
compiled text. Whether they're unraveling a deceptively complex topic such as
girls' friendships (from childhood "best friends" to teenage sexual partners),
or reporting hard data on tough issues (chronic disorders, drug abuse,
violence), Snyderman and Streep never buy in to "inevitable" scenarios.
Rather, they offer practical methods to help mothers nurture a pattern of
appropriate openness, trust, and respect with their maturing daughters...
- Based on
Queen Bees and Wannabes, it's funny, but right on target and a great
starting point for conversations with our daughters...
Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls by Rachel Simmons
- begins with the premise that girls are socialized to be sweet with a
double bind: they must value friendships; but they must not express the anger
that might destroy them. Lacking cultural permission to acknowledge conflict,
girls develop what Simmons calls "a hidden culture of silent and indirect
aggression." ...offers innovative ideas for changing the dynamics of the
classroom, sample dialogues for talking to daughters, and exercises for girls
and their friends to explore and resolve messy feelings...
Girl Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity, and Jealousy
by Rachel Simmons
- sequel to the controversial bestseller Odd Girl Out compiles pseudonymous
accounts of bullying, backstabbing and other nastiness that girls say they
have suffered or perpetrated on other girls, intercut with brief commentary
from political scientist Simmons. ...not much different from what teen
advice manuals have always offered, but some readers may find Simmons's
presumption-of-wickedness approach more disarming than the conventional,
the Gift : Keeping Children and Teenagers Safe (and Parents Sane) by Gavin
- Be warned: In many ways this is a terrifying book. It deals with a
subject--violence against children--that most of us never want to consider.
But, as Gavin de Becker stresses, such situations, though rare, can occur, so
all parents must deal with the facts in order to protect their children
Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip,
Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence by Rosalind Wiseman
- Acting as a liaison between "Girl World" and "Planet Parent," Wiseman
helps parents understand their daughters' friendships, the power of cliques
and the roles of girls within them (including Queen Bee, Sidekick, Torn
Bystander, Messenger and Target). She outlines parenting styles (from "The
Lock-Her-in-a-Closet Parent" to "The Loving-Hard-Ass Parent") and offers tips
on talking to teens ("Don't use the slang your daughter uses"). The second
half concentrates on boys, sex and drugs as well as what to do if your
daughter needs professional help...
Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls
by Mary Pipher
- If you have a gifted girl approaching or in the teen years, you should
read this book, and perhaps have her read it, and discuss it together