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Bullies and Bullying
Precocity unavoidably complicates the problem of social adjustment. The
child of eight years of age with a mentality of twelve or fourteen is faced
with a situation almost inconceivably difficult. In order to adjust normally
such a child has to have an exceptionally well-balanced personality and be
well nigh a social genius. The higher the IQ, the more acute the problem.
Lewis M. Terman, The Gifted Child, in "A Handbook of Child
Students with Disabilities Safe from Bullying
U.S. Department of Education
- ED’s Office of Special Education and Rehabilitative Services (OSERS)
issued guidance to educators and stakeholders on the matter of bullying of
students with disabilities. ...an overview of school districts’
responsibilities to ensure that students with disabilities who are subject
to bullying continue to receive free appropriate public education (FAPE)
under the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA). States and
school districts are obligated to ensure that students with disabilities
receive FAPE in the least restrictive environment (LRE). This guidance
explains that any bullying of a student with disabilities which results in
the student not receiving meaningful educational benefit is considered a
denial of FAPE. Furthermore, this letter notes that certain changes to an
educational program of a student with a disability (e.g., placement in a
more restricted “protected” setting to avoid bullying behavior) may
constitute a denial of FAPE...
Your Kids: A Parents' Guide for Instilling Confidence, Joy and Resilience
by Peter A. Levine and Maggie Kline
- An antidote to trauma and a recipe for creating resilient kids no matter
what misfortune has besieged them, a treasure trove of simple-to-follow
“stress-busting,” boundary-setting, sensory/motor-awareness activities that
counteract trauma’s effect on a child’s body, mind and spirit. Includes a
chapter on how to navigate the inevitable difficulties that arise during the
various ages and stages of development, this book simplifies an often
mystifying and complex subject, empowering parents to raise truly confident
and joyful kids despite stressful and turbulent times...
Are a Pain in the Brain by Trevor Romain
- This book for kids and teens blends humor with serious, practical suggestions for coping with
bullies - And if bullies happen to read this book, they'll find ideas they
can use too!
Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander: From Preschool to High School: How
Parents and Teachers Can Help Break the Cycle of Violence by Barbara
- Explains not only the ways that
the bully, the bullied and the bystander are "three characters in a tragic
play," but also how "the scripts can be rewritten, new roles created, the plot
changed." For each of the three "characters," she breaks down the behavior
that defines each role, analyzes the specific ways that each character can
have their behaviors changed for the better, and suggests a range of methods
to identify bullying behavior and deal with it effectively...
- iFree bully reporting site, but even more useful...
Don't miss The Poker Face
& cyberbullying, especially vs. gay youth WHYY Radio Program
- Statistics indicate that lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer
students, known collectively by the acronym LGBTQ, are 4 times more likely
to kill themselves than the rest of the population. And when those students
are rejected by their families and/or kicked out of their homes, LGBTQ
students are 9 times more likely to kill themselves than their peers...
A Module for Teachers by Sandra Graham, American Psychological
- Bullying by peers can have long-term effects on students’ academic
achievement. Commonly labeled as peer victimization or peer harassment,
school bullying is defined as repeated physical, verbal or psychological
abuse of victims by perpetrators who intend to cause them harm...
Among Children and Youth by Susan P. Limber and Maury M. Nation
- Not only does bullying harm both its intended victims and the
perpetrators, it also may affect the climate of schools and, indirectly, the
ability of all students to learn to the best of their abilities. Evaluation
data suggest that adopting a comprehensive approach to reduce bullying at
school can change students' behaviors and attitudes, reduce other antisocial
behaviors, and increase teachers' willingness to intervene...
Series in the Kennebec Journal / Morning Sentinel
- From Battling the bullies, and Survey details effect on third-graders, to
From the bully's perspective, and Bullies learn from what they see, plus
Among the Gifted: The Subjective Experience by Jean Sunde Peterson and
Karen E. Ray, in Gifted
- Gifted children and adolescents are clearly not exempt from being bullied
or being bullies. Bullying may not bode well for a bully’s future mental
health or behavior, and being bullied can be highly distressing for victims,
regardless of number of incidents. However, also important are the findings
that victims may suffer in silence, assume responsibility for stopping it,
despair when it continues, and think violent thoughts. Carefully considered
systemic interventions are most promising in curbing peer abuse among school
children in general and of and by gifted students in particular... (free
download with Gifted
Child Quarterly or Athens subscription, otherwise available for a per
In Schools and What To Do About It by Ken Rigby
- A passionate and motivating book that policy makers, school
administrators, teachers, doctors, and parents will find invaluable
of gifted children: Giftedness, tall poppy syndrome and bullying by teachers
on BullyOnline, web site of the
UK National Workplace Bullying Advice
- Bullies are driven by jealousy and envy so it's hardly surprising that
gifted children are targeted. Occasionally, exceptionally able children are
targeted and bullied by a less-than-gifted teacher...
and Sexting: Technology Abuses of the 21st Century by Del Seigle, Gifted
- Parents and educators play an important role in helping young people
understand the consequences of poor decisions in a digital age where
favorable, as well as unfavorable, text and images spread exponentially...
an Anti-Bullying Program: Increasing Safety, Reducing Violence by
Juvenile Justice, Issue One
- An Effective Response: The Olweus Bullying Prevention Program.
children especially vulnerable to effects of bullying study by Jean
Peterson, Purdue University
Bullying in the gifted-student population is an overlooked problem that
leaves many of these students emotionally shattered, making them more prone
to extreme anxiety, dangerous depression and sometimes violence...
|Identifying at-risk students and intervening.|
|Teaching students skills and knowledge that promote social and emotional
competence and provide a |
foundation for reflective learning and non-violent
|Developing systemic interventions that create safer, more caring and
responsive school environments and,|
optimally, communities as well...
and Tormented: Academic Stars Often Bullied -- and More Likely to Suffer
Emotionally as a Result by Sandra G. Boodman,
All children are affected adversely by bullying, but gifted children
differ from other children in significant ways, and what they experience may
be qualitatively different... the personality traits and interests of many
gifted children may make them targets of bullying by their classmates. At
the same time, she added, gifted children may be more susceptible to the
emotional damage that bullying can inflict...
Bully Machine by Debbie Fox and Allan L. Beane
Kids can see how bullying makes the machine grow more imposing, while kind
behaviors dismantle it. Through the machine, kids gain awareness of their
role in bullying, whether they are targets, bullies, bystanders—or all three...
Issues, Cool Choices: Facing Bullies, Peer Pressure, Popularity, and
Put-downs by Sandra McLeod Humphrey
Brief stories on bullying topics, including exclusion, name-calling,
bystander dilemmas, cyber-bullying and more. Great for classroom or
family discussion, with questions and role-play suggestions following each
Rude!: The Teenagers' Guide to Good Manners, Proper Behavior, and Not
Grossing People Out by Alex J. Packer
Includes an extensive section on dealing with teasing, or verbal bullying
and misperceptions about school bullying on
Overcoming stereotypes and false perceptions of school
bullying and child bullying, including such myths as There's no
bullying here, Ignore it, Victims of bullying become too flustered
to deflect bullies with humour, and many more...
ways to stop bullying by Nicole Crawford
Mediation programs for bullies and victims are also problematic. Peer
mediation may be appropriate in resolving conflict between students with
equal power, but "bullying is a form of victimization," she says. "It's no
more of a 'conflict' than child abuse or domestic violence..." The most
effective strategies to stop bullying involve "the entire school as a
community to change the climate of the school and the norms of behavior,"
she says. This is why her institute promotes the Olweus Bullying Prevention
Parents sue districts to stop bullies at schools by Heather Hollingsworth, AP
More and more parents are taking school officials to court for failing to
stop other youngsters from bullying their children. A growing body of research
highlights the long-term negative effects of bullying, which can range from
diminished self-esteem to declining grades and depression...
Peace Games empowers students to create their own safe classrooms and
communities by forming partnerships with elementary schools, families, and
young adult volunteers. Teach kids to solve the problems, before they
Rejection... Almost Bullying by Charlotte Riggle
Some things I've told my kids when they were having peer problems...
First, I have explained the developmental nature of peer nastiness...
Second, I have explained, explicitly, that everyone else feels the same way...
Strategies for Sensitive Souls by Lizette Campbell
Assists parents to recognise and manage low levels of teasing, bullying or
distress within the gifted child's everyday environment. Most typically this
will occur at school, though it could occur at any sporting or social event.
It can occur even within the kindest and most understanding families!
For a few students in every school, school is as unsafe as it can be.
These students are regularly attacked by their classmates, physically as
well as psychologically... These are scary stories, but unfortunately true
Where Everyone Belongs: Practical Strategies for Reducing Bullying by Stan
Outlines research on effective bullying prevention interventions and
presents specific practices and skills that help schools implement that
rise as bullying grows more serious by Stephan Buttry,
Jessi was smart, another common factor in bullying. "She didn't want
people to know she was smart," her mother said. A prolific writer who
kept a journal, Jessi planned to attend Stanford University, then Harvard Law
Schoo. She wrote about marvelous devices she planned to invent. She dreamed of
being a ballerina, an opera singer, a vaccine scientist, a Supreme Court
and Stones: 7 Ways Your Child Can Deal with Teasing, Conflict, and Other
Hard Times by Scott Cooper
Words can hurt. Adults can teach children how to defend themselves against
those painful taunts. Cooper offers a "tool kit" of methods and exercises to
give children ways to express themselves assertively, respond to blame and
teasing, resolve conflicts, and talk confidently in social
conversations--all while enhancing their communication skills and
Links on this site will lead you through an exploration of interventions
that work to reduce bullying in schools...
Gifted Students Become Bully Magnets
Bullying in the gifted-student population is an overlooked problem that
leaves many of these students emotionally shattered, making them more prone
to extreme anxiety, dangerous depression and sometimes violence, according
to a Purdue University researcher. In what is believed to be the first
major study of bullying and gifted students, researchers found that by
eighth grade, more than two-thirds of gifted students had been victims...
the Bully by the Horns by Kathy Noll and Jay Carter
This is the kids version of Jay Carter's Nasty
Who Bully Students: Patterns and Policy Implications by Alan McEvoy
Although most professional educators are ethical in their conduct,
bullying of students by teachers needs to be recognized as a problem. Even
if only a few teachers engage in this behavior within a school, the
consequences for school climate and for fulfilling the institution’s
educational mission are profound. Perhaps the most troubling finding of this
investigation is perceived institutional collusion through inaction when
bullying incidents are known. In the absence of an effective
institutional response to bullying, a small number of bullies can do
enormous harm... (requires
Your Kids by Jim Fay
We think to ourselves, “Why can’t the school people protect my child? The
sad truth is that the more a teacher protects the child who is teased, the
more resentful and aggressive the other children become. A teacher who tells
kids to be nice to a specific child actually “marks” that youngster and sets
him/her up for more intense rejection and ridicule. When it comes to
teasing, the only person who can protect your child from teasing is your
and gifted children by Patricia A. Schuler
Many gifted children and adolescents are targets of teasing and bullying.
Some of their peers and teachers may perceive them as "too verbal", "too
bossy", "too smart," "too nerdy." Because gifted children and adolescents tend
to be highly sensitive to others, their reactions to being teased are
can I do if I am being bullied? by KidScape
For kids: Everyone needs help sometimes and asking for help to stop
bullying doesn't mean that you are weak or a failure. Telling about bullying
isn't 'telling tales' (Follow the question links down the left
What's Bullying? by www.NoBully.org
For kids: What is bullying? Why do people bully? Why is it harmful? Are
you a bully?
lunch hour turns into 'Lord of the Flies'
Thousands of kids miss school for fear of being attacked or harassed by C.
W. Nevius, SFGate.home (San Francisco
According to a survey by the National Crime Prevention Council, "six out
of 10 teens see school bullying once a day." Well, that's just a little normal
teasing, isn't it? Not really...
Can't Say You Can't Play by Vivian Gussin Paley
, or read
Harvard's full review
You Can't Say
You Can't Play
In this brief, ethereal and tender account of social relations among
children, Paley--a kindergarten teacher at the University of Chicago
Laboratory Schools, a MacArthur grant recipient and the author of
The Boy Who Would Be a Helicopter and
The Girl with the Brown Crayon --explores how to keep students from
being ignored by their classmates...
September 20, 2013